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mamajoanHave you ever paused to think about someone, and realized that you really didn't know why you considered them a friend? You didn't have much in common with them, didn't really enjoy spending time with them, didn't care about their life or what they thought about stuff, etc.? It can be really hard to come to that realization, just because you get into a rut with thinking of someone as a friend and rarely rethink that. It's easy enough to stop considering someone a friend when they do something horrible to you, but a lot harder to do so just by thinking about it.
(FTR, this isn't about any current situation in my life. Just some random musing on stuff that happened quite a while ago.)
Isaac news:
* The other day a couple of different people with kids in Isaac's general age range had mentioned that their kids were starting to learn how to count, and I had a moment of freak-out "yikes, I'm supposed to be teaching him to count already?" LOL. (FTR again, yes, I know this is silly.) But over the weekend I discovered to my surprise that he IS starting to learn how to count! I do practice it with him with one book we have that's all about cats ("kitty book"). The first page has a picture of six kittens, and I always take Isaac's finger and point it to each kitten in turn while counting out loud. So I guess I *have* been teaching him to count and not realizing it. ;) Anyway, now he points to them one at a time without my help, and he says "two, fee, five, two, fee, five." LOL. He has also been telling me how many hands and feet he has. We've always had these conversations like when putting on his socks (Isaac: "More sock!" Me: "You don't need more sock, you have two feet so you only need two socks.") and now he'll say "Two sock!" Or last night while I was washing his hands before bed, "Two hand!" Or yesterday after a round of "mama hair, Isaac hair" he said "two hair!" My smart boy! :)
* He's also making more and more associations. For a while now he has known the word "buckle" as applies to the straps and buckles in his carseat, and the other day after I strapped him in, I got into the driver's seat and put on my seatbelt and he said "Mama buckle." And the other day while we were driving to grandma's house we saw a cat:
Me: Isaac, look!
Isaac: Kitty!
Me: (drives past) Bye-bye kitty.
Isaac: More kitty!
Me: We'll see more kitty when we get to grandma's house.
Isaac: Nomar?
Nomar, of course, is the name of one of grandma's kitties. It's funny, because Nomar never plays with Isaac, and Mister Softie always does, and yet Isaac says Nomar but doesn't even try to say Mr. Softie yet. Of course, he doesn't try to say Bini (our kitty) yet either.
Anyway, it's cool to see him making all those connections in his mind.
* He's also getting really good at remembering where he left things. It's funny, after playing with a toy he'll take it and put it right back in the same spot on the floor where he found it. LOL. And the other morning we had an entertaining exchange after he got out of bed but I was still lying there trying to motivate myself to get up. Isaac came back into the bedroom with a banana (I'm trying to get in the habit of moving stuff far enough back on the kitchen table so he can't reach it, but it's a learning process) and said "banana." I was like, "you want to eat this?" and he said "fork." (He always says the name of the utensil when you mention a kind of food.) Then he ran off, and I thought, good, he'll forget about the banana. So I put it under the covers with me to hide it. I figured he'd get involved with a toy. But nooooo. He comes back with a fork in his hand and starts looking all around, "uh-oh banana! uh-oh banana!" which is what he says when he can't find something ("Isaac, where are your shoes?" "Uh-oh shoes!"). I produced the banana and he tried to stab it with his fork -- peel and all. LOL! Okay, okay, I'm getting up!
He then proceeded to eat one bite of the banana and reject it, but that's a whole nother story.
* One of his newest words is sneeze. He says it whenever someone does it. (I guess I should teach him "bless you" eh?) The other day he was sneezing a LOT (sunny) and I said, "You are the sneeziest boy!" (I always say "you are the ___est boy," it's one of my things.) So now every time he sneezes he says boy. Like this:
Isaac: [sneezes] Sneeze?
Me: Yep, you sneezed.
Isaac: Boy?
Me: Yep, you're a boy.
LOL. BTW, the word "sneeze" sure is funny-looking, isn't it?
I never know whether to put a question mark at the end when I'm quoting something that Isaac said. Pretty much everything he says has a rising inflection at the end so that it sounds like a question, even though sometimes it isn't. It can be hard to tell sometimes whether it's really a question -- but usually I can just repeat whatever he's saying and that satisfies him. Oh, and there are a few things he does say as statements -- usually with exclamation points after them ;) like when he sees the cats and yells "Mow!" (meow) or when he's hungry and he goes to hang on his highchair and yells "Chair!" LOL.
That's enough for now; more later of course.
(FTR, this isn't about any current situation in my life. Just some random musing on stuff that happened quite a while ago.)
Isaac news:
* The other day a couple of different people with kids in Isaac's general age range had mentioned that their kids were starting to learn how to count, and I had a moment of freak-out "yikes, I'm supposed to be teaching him to count already?" LOL. (FTR again, yes, I know this is silly.) But over the weekend I discovered to my surprise that he IS starting to learn how to count! I do practice it with him with one book we have that's all about cats ("kitty book"). The first page has a picture of six kittens, and I always take Isaac's finger and point it to each kitten in turn while counting out loud. So I guess I *have* been teaching him to count and not realizing it. ;) Anyway, now he points to them one at a time without my help, and he says "two, fee, five, two, fee, five." LOL. He has also been telling me how many hands and feet he has. We've always had these conversations like when putting on his socks (Isaac: "More sock!" Me: "You don't need more sock, you have two feet so you only need two socks.") and now he'll say "Two sock!" Or last night while I was washing his hands before bed, "Two hand!" Or yesterday after a round of "mama hair, Isaac hair" he said "two hair!" My smart boy! :)
* He's also making more and more associations. For a while now he has known the word "buckle" as applies to the straps and buckles in his carseat, and the other day after I strapped him in, I got into the driver's seat and put on my seatbelt and he said "Mama buckle." And the other day while we were driving to grandma's house we saw a cat:
Me: Isaac, look!
Isaac: Kitty!
Me: (drives past) Bye-bye kitty.
Isaac: More kitty!
Me: We'll see more kitty when we get to grandma's house.
Isaac: Nomar?
Nomar, of course, is the name of one of grandma's kitties. It's funny, because Nomar never plays with Isaac, and Mister Softie always does, and yet Isaac says Nomar but doesn't even try to say Mr. Softie yet. Of course, he doesn't try to say Bini (our kitty) yet either.
Anyway, it's cool to see him making all those connections in his mind.
* He's also getting really good at remembering where he left things. It's funny, after playing with a toy he'll take it and put it right back in the same spot on the floor where he found it. LOL. And the other morning we had an entertaining exchange after he got out of bed but I was still lying there trying to motivate myself to get up. Isaac came back into the bedroom with a banana (I'm trying to get in the habit of moving stuff far enough back on the kitchen table so he can't reach it, but it's a learning process) and said "banana." I was like, "you want to eat this?" and he said "fork." (He always says the name of the utensil when you mention a kind of food.) Then he ran off, and I thought, good, he'll forget about the banana. So I put it under the covers with me to hide it. I figured he'd get involved with a toy. But nooooo. He comes back with a fork in his hand and starts looking all around, "uh-oh banana! uh-oh banana!" which is what he says when he can't find something ("Isaac, where are your shoes?" "Uh-oh shoes!"). I produced the banana and he tried to stab it with his fork -- peel and all. LOL! Okay, okay, I'm getting up!
He then proceeded to eat one bite of the banana and reject it, but that's a whole nother story.
* One of his newest words is sneeze. He says it whenever someone does it. (I guess I should teach him "bless you" eh?) The other day he was sneezing a LOT (sunny) and I said, "You are the sneeziest boy!" (I always say "you are the ___est boy," it's one of my things.) So now every time he sneezes he says boy. Like this:
Isaac: [sneezes] Sneeze?
Me: Yep, you sneezed.
Isaac: Boy?
Me: Yep, you're a boy.
LOL. BTW, the word "sneeze" sure is funny-looking, isn't it?
I never know whether to put a question mark at the end when I'm quoting something that Isaac said. Pretty much everything he says has a rising inflection at the end so that it sounds like a question, even though sometimes it isn't. It can be hard to tell sometimes whether it's really a question -- but usually I can just repeat whatever he's saying and that satisfies him. Oh, and there are a few things he does say as statements -- usually with exclamation points after them ;) like when he sees the cats and yells "Mow!" (meow) or when he's hungry and he goes to hang on his highchair and yells "Chair!" LOL.
That's enough for now; more later of course.
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Date: 2005-02-07 08:51 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2005-02-07 09:23 pm (UTC)When Ilana was first learning her alphabet, she would sing the song "B, C, B, C, B, C, B." And when she first learned how to count, everything was 2. "2, 2, 2, 2...." etc.
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Date: 2005-02-07 10:35 pm (UTC)At first (i.e., when I was much younger) I thought I was shallow for not maintaining these relationships. Now I realise that it's just that they just never had any real shared commonality that went further than the situation that brought us together.
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Date: 2005-02-08 04:34 pm (UTC)Well, I usually know why - because they're there. Always there. Every social event I go to, there they are. Of course, this is a function of the particular social crowd I hang in.
Jon doesn't get it. When I say something like "Oh, I got this invitation from Foo, if you wanna go, but it's okay if you don't. I don't even like Foo." He's flabbergasted. But he doesn't come from a social structure with bulk invites that go to everyone whether you like them or not, or go to parties held by people you wouldn't know on the street.
It's a social structure that wears thin as you get older. Most parties these days aren't open invite, and I don't tend to go to parties of people I don't know well or like.
When I was first on LJ, I friended according to the old open social rules. And I found pretty quickly that this is a forum that doesn't lend itself nearly as well to keeping soul-suckers around. For a while, I put up with whiny, stupid, and even directly insulting comments to my entries. I was conflicted about unfriending people whom I found overly abrasive, judgemental, or boring, because that's Just Not What You Do. But when I finally got fed up and did it, offense be damned, I felt so much better.
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Date: 2005-02-08 05:17 pm (UTC)As for LJ, I'll admit I've made extensive use of the filtering features so that I don't have to deal with the emotional fallout of defriending, but also don't ever have to read the person's entries. Having them comment on my entries does get annoying, but so far not enough so to make me defriend...yet. ;)