other annoyances

[mamajoan]

You know what else I hate (boy, my journal entries sure are snarky lately, aren't they)? It's when you send someone an email, and they don't reply, and you're left not knowing whether they a) never got the email, b) got it but are too busy to reply, or c) got it and are blowing you off because they secretly hate you. So then you don't want to email again and say "hey, you didn't reply to my email," because if they're busy you'll be nagging, and if they're blowing you off you'll just annoy them more. But on the other hand, what if they never got your email and are sitting there wondering why you never email them?

This is really just an exhibition of my own unique insecurities, though, because I can't bear to think that someone both dislikes me and is annoyed by my repeated emails. I know most people would say, "if s/he is deliberately blowing me off, then who cares if my second email annoys him/her? Anyone who blows me off DESERVES to be annoyed!" But I can't be that way. I guess I'm putting myself in his/her hypothetical shoes; I would be annoyed if someone I didn't like emailed me repeatedly when I was trying to blow them off. Of course, with me, the reason I'd be annoyed would be that I already felt guilty about blowing them off. I never said my psyche was simple. <g>

Of course, in the case of my brother, it's just that he is really bad about replying to email. And then you'll give up and call him on the phone, and he's all, "Oh yeah, I was going to reply to your email." Oh, you were? In what decade? ;)

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Been There Done That

[bearblue.livejournal.com]

I had a crush on a person once, emailed them and NEVER heard back...except by phone about a year later.

Yeah, it's frustrating.